Let me tell you for 20 something years. I never cussed nor had a desire. After my divorce and hanging around fellow cussing friends. I noticed I would cuss here and there. All the sudden I had a trucker potty mouth. Some think its cool to cuss and be a in your face, take me as I am, type of person. And if you don’t like it? Well, sweetie! There is the door. lol :) Trust me, I get it ! However, hear me out when you are living a conscious life that mentality does not serve you. First of all its not cool to be up in someone’s face Second you can be yourself. However, you also live around others and what you say has a negative or positive affect on the planet. As a conscious human being. We should make a every effort to care about others too. Not just ourselves.
I knew when I had to stop it. One time, I unconsciously cussed in front of this kid at the bank and the mom yelled at me. I apologiesed and felt so bad. In retrospect, I am glad she yelled at me. It woke me up to become more conscious and aware about how I was showing up in the world and acting. We are here to help heal the world and make it a better place. How we talk, act affect and influences everyone as a whole on the planet. My lastet article you can read here. I talk about the lost art of kindness and give some helpful tips that helped me and can help you live more conscious and mindful. I think the fact that I am recovering P.M made me more compassionate instead of judgmental regarding it. Don’t get me wrong. I don’t like cussing and being around it. It’s a part of me I dislike so I naturally project a dislike towards it. I am just more gentle with myself and others regarding it. A lot of people resist change and will come up with all sorts of excuses like” That is not me” or ” Its boring ” or I am rebel and take it or leave it or It’s no fun. Be yourself and be conscious too. When you focus on being kind all the others stuff and resistance starts to fade away.
“Speak a new language so that the world will be a new world.” ~ Rumi
After the bank incident. I remember asking God to help me stop cussing. It didn’t happen over night. Its hard to control the cussing once you become a potty mouth. I felt like such a fake at times because I was hiding this dirty little cussing shadow. I was teaching love, gentleness and kindness and cussing too. It didn’t feel right! It was not serving planet nor myself. Then about 3 years ago, I said enough! I got serious with myself and said I am going to stop. I didn’t cuss for 20 something years and I can do it again. Slowly, I started to change back to the old me. My boyfriend helped too he does not cuss at all. I love that about him. I soon realized once I started to kick the cussing. I didn’t want to go back to it. So now, I watch myself carefully. I still slip up every once in a while like, when I bang my toe or something. However, when I make a mistake I don’t beat myself up. I quickly ask for forgiveness and quickly align with love. I notice it happens less and less. I love that!
Here are a few B’s to help you with your language.
We are starting a 30 day no cussing challenge on facebook Here feel free to join us. We would love to hear from you. Feel free to share your stories and comments below. Do you have any good advice on how to quite cussing? If so, share it with us. Oh yeah and I found this cool website where they practice mindful and conscious conversation too. They have a no cussing club to help you cut the cussing out of your life and I encourage you to check them out. A young boy started it and we think he is pretty cool. Right here. They say out of the mouths of babes. They have over 22,000 friend taking the challenge!